Mother Woodland Musk Ox nursing her baby, Museum of Natural History & Science, Cincinnati, OH
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Black breastfeeding news and views
Artist Kate Hansen recently contacted me about a project she is working on called "Madonna and Child," a combination of portrait art and birth stories. Her art is really beautiful. I know that breastfeeding photographs have become trendy lately and many photographers are doing breastfeeding sessions, but I love the idea of a portrait to capture the breastfeeding experience.
There was a recent article in USA Today that posed the question, "Why do mothers judge one another and their parenting?" There were a couple of very interesting and valid points raised in the article. First, I think that often modern mothers find themselves faced with unsolicited and unwanted advice, typically from older women who are often strangers. How many times have you been in the mall and had someone, apropos of nothin', ask you if your baby is sleeping through the night. For some reason, as a culture, we've come to equate "good sleeper" with "good baby" and "good mothering." I think that for the most part, people mean well when they try to impart this advice on you, but it almost always comes across as mean-spirited. No one wants to feel backed into a corner, explaining or justifying their parenting techniques to a virtual stranger.
The article also talked about perceived judgment about choices that can leave other parents feeling bad about their parenting style. I can remember being at a play date with my son when he was about 7 months old with a few others moms who had babies the same age. We were talking about babies' eating habits and one mentioned that she put cereal in her daughter's bottles and the others chimed in that they did as well. I stayed silent, not wanting to seem critical, but it didn't matter. "Oh, you're one of those who doesn't put cereal in the bottle, huh?" she asked, and they all rolled their eyes. Simply by making a choice that is outside the norm, and which I suspect they knew at some level was a better choice, they felt I had judged them and so they judged me.
I'd like to think I've never done this. I try not to offer advice to anyone unless they ask. I've never corrected anyone who's given me bad advice. I usually just act dumb, smile and nod and get out of there as quickly as possible. I'm not a confrontational person at all in real life and scenarios like this make me very uncomfortable. But what I am guilty of is silently judging, which is why this clip from the Wendy Williams Show resonated with me.
If you're unable to watch the clip, Wendy says she knows she is judged for not breastfeeding her son and for being a work-out-of-the-home mother. She says she judges other moms, too, but always in her head. What will get you the side-eye from Wendy? Still allowing your toddler to sleep in your bed, not vaccinating, and homeschooling.
So although I will never say anything to you, I am probably judging you for some things. Like, if your kid is over the age of 2 and still has a pacifier in his mouth every time I see you. Or if you extol the virtues of using cry-it-out on your 3-month-old. Or if you're giving solids to a baby who's barely 2 months old.
And I know you're probably judging me too. Like when I let my kid drink out of my soda can or give him a Pop Tart (unfrosted!!!) as a snack. Or when you find out he's 2.5 and still breastfeeding or sleeping in our bed occasionally. And that's OK, just keep it to yourself.
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Happy Father's Day! I recently read about a study published in the Maternal & Child Health Journal about men's attitudes toward breastfeeding. The study used the Texas sample of the 2007 Behavior Risk Surveillance System to examine whether men's attitudes toward breastfeeding would vary by race, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, and education level.
Some of the study findings weren't very surprising. For example, Spanish-speaking Hispanic men were found to be the most likely to agree that breastfeeding interfered with having a social life for mothers, yet they were also more likely to view images of public breastfeeding as acceptable. In addition, men born in the US were less likely to think employers should accommodate nursing mothers than foreign-born men.
I was surprised to find just how supportive of breastfeeding the men in the study seemed to be. So what did the study reveal? Eighty-four percent of men disagreed or strongly disagreed that mothers should only breastfeed in their homes and 80% disagreed or strongly disagreed that a mother cannot breastfeed and work outside of the home. Only 21% of men felt embarrassed by a woman they didn't know nursing in front of them. Some of the results seemed to be split down the middle, with 48% of men agreeing or strongly agreeing that it was appropriate to show a mom breastfeeding on the cover of a magazine. Similarly, 46% agreed or strongly agreed that it was appropriate to show a mom breastfeeding on a TV show. The men most in favor of breastfeeding in the media? Spanish-speaking Hispanic men.
The other good news included that 75% of the men believed employers should make the necessary accommodations for nursing mothers, including flexible schedules and a private place to nurse or express milk. Positive attitudes towards breastfeeding and images of breastfeeding were more likely to be found in men under the age of 30, men who were college educated and men who were Spanish-speaking. This makes sense when we think about who has one of the highest rates of breastfeeding in this country: Hispanic women!
Since we all know how influential fathers can be when it comes to whether or not women breastfeed, it's great to see that there seems to be a lot of men who support nursing in public, breastfeeding imagery and continuing to breastfeed while working outside of the home. Let's give some extra props to the dads this year who support their wives, girlfriends and baby mamas to breastfeed.
Is the man in your life supportive? Give him a shout out in the comments!
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Before Betty White came on the scene, Kenen Thompson as D'Andre Cole was the best thing to ever happen to Saturday Night Live. Seriously. We love this skit so much that even my son is liable to bust out with a perfectly timed, "What up wit dat?"
So when I saw a blog post with the phrase in the title I was prepared to laugh. Unfortunately, there's not much funny about this post. You see, Melissa Nagin is the author of the About.com breastfeeding page and an IBCLC. Her sister recently gave birth in an NYC area hospital and the advice she got from the attending pediatricians was less than stellar. On two separate occasions, Melissa overheard her sister being told that she needed to supplement with formula until her milk came in in order to prevent jaundice.
All together now, "He say, she say, we say, me say, what up wit dat?"
Although jaundice is very common in breastfed babies, it seems there is some serious jaundice phobia in the hospital. According to Dr. Sears, jaundice in the breastfed baby can last up to three weeks and "most newborn jaundice is harmless." So why so much supplementation of the breastfed baby with formula to prevent that something that for the most part is normal and not a cause for concern?
The only theory I can come up with is that this is just another case of hospital overkill due to fear of litigation. The same reason laboring women are required to have IV fluids, are subjected to continuous fetal monitoring and ushered off to the OR if they don't progress within a certain time frame. I know that my son was jaundiced and got formula in the hospital, despite my protestations. When we left the hospital we were instructed to sit outside in the shade or inside near a window so he could get some sunlight. However, no one talked to me about how unrestricted nursing is the best cure for jaundice or checked to make sure that my baby was nursing well before we went home. I still wonder "what up wit dat?"
Was your breastfed baby jaundiced? Did your baby receive formula in the hospital? What advice did you get from your pediatrician?
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Thanks to Leigh of Marvelous Kiddo for letting me know about National Geographic's Photo of the Day archive online. This photo was posted on May 10, 2009 and is of a Mbukushu mother and her child. Typically Botswana is very dry, but the country does experience seasonal floods. With water this high, babywearing is essential for a sleepy toddler!
Dr. Vincent Tuohy of the Cleveland Clinic's Lerner Research Institute thinks he may have found a way to eradicate breast cancer as we know it. Dr. Tuohy found that a single vaccination with the antigen alpha-lactalbumin prevented breast cancer tumors from forming in mice. Because of the favorable results, human trials of the vaccine could begin as early as next year.
I'm pleased to present a guest post today by Caroline, an expat living in Madagascar, about what formula marketing is like in a country where the WHO Code has been adopted. I was particularly interested in hearing about this because of the recent discussion about whether or not Nestle abides by the Code in countries where it has to.
Madagascar is one of the 32 countries in which the International Code of the Marketing of Breastmilk Substitutes (the "Code") is law. The two main infant formula brands that are marketed here in Madagascar are Nestlé and Blédina. I would say that they each occupy about 45+ percent of the market, although perhaps Blédina, a French brand, has a slightly higher market share (the other 10 percent occupied by France Lait and other smaller brands).
Both Nestlé and Blédina ostensibly adhere to the Code. Blédina states on its website that it supports the Code's recommendation of exclusive breastfeeding for six months, and is committed to adhere to this recommendation (i) in accordance with the application clauses found in local regulations or (ii) as it stands, in the absence of regulations. As the Code is law in Madagascar, both Nestlé and Blédina have taken steps to abide by the letter of the Code (or at least their interpretation of it) here.
Here is a typical supermarket aisle for infant formula.