tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post3290781720984442646..comments2023-09-09T11:07:31.879-04:00Comments on Blacktating: The Last Time That Never WasElitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01294923997458681675noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-56209047992491449452011-04-28T10:30:05.560-04:002011-04-28T10:30:05.560-04:00Love this. It reminds me of my son's weaning....Love this. It reminds me of my son's weaning. I just faded out gradually, with no ceremony. Before either of us realized it, it was over (sniff).tanya@motherloveherbalcompanynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-82701371962517919632011-04-26T19:37:51.011-04:002011-04-26T19:37:51.011-04:00Thanks for sharing this story! My little one's...Thanks for sharing this story! My little one's first birthday is coming up next week, and I've begun to think about weaning him and how it all will happen. It makes me a little nervous-- I think I'll grieve a little, but I'm also looking forward to the freedom from it. It was nice to get a window into what it might look like.Nikkihttp://onbecomingmommy.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-53343924166022878462011-04-21T14:50:42.880-04:002011-04-21T14:50:42.880-04:00This is so bittersweet. That is the experience we&...This is so bittersweet. That is the experience we're working toward as well. I keep thinking my oldest two are done and then they're not and then they are and then they're not. I have no idea when the last session will be, but I'm taking more photos now because I regret missing so many earlier. In almost 5 years of breastfeeding, I only have a dozen solo photos, 3 tandem photos and 1 triandem photo. So, I'll try to capture as many as I can before this time is gone.Zoie @ TouchstoneZhttp://profiles.google.com/zoie2013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-62078184085093413762011-04-20T14:18:57.685-04:002011-04-20T14:18:57.685-04:00This is a beautiful post and gentle model for chil...This is a beautiful post and gentle model for child-led weaning. My son is just 18 months and though I have no plans to wean soon, our interests are sometimes at odds. He’ll want to breastfeed while I want to sleep or I want him to nurse when he wants to play. Most of the time we’re in sync though. The thought that he won’t be nursing at some point in our future, reminds me to enjoy these moments. I'm also enjoying this carnival - thanks so much.Amandahttp://www.postilius.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-81623820476480448072011-04-20T14:17:08.645-04:002011-04-20T14:17:08.645-04:00This is a beautiful post and gentle model for chil...This is a beautiful post and gentle model for child-led weaning. My son is just 18 months and though I have no plans to wean soon, our interests are sometimes at odds. He’ll want to breastfeed while I want to sleep or I want him to nurse when he wants to play. Most of the time we’re in sync though. The thought that he won’t be nursing at some point in our future, reminds me to enjoy these moments. I'm also enjoying this carnival - thanks so much.Amanda Postohttp://profiles.google.com/amanda.postonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-8798389273777492592011-04-20T04:12:47.635-04:002011-04-20T04:12:47.635-04:00Sadly, that's how it is with child led things....Sadly, that's how it is with child led things. I have no memory of the last time I wore my baby. It must have been somewhere in Ivory Coast, or maybe on our evacuation? It will probably be the same with nursing... Though in that department she is still going fairly strong at almost 3. With all the change in our lives and all of the stress and sorrow, I think it's only natural she clings to the only thing that is constant in her lifeLaura aka mamapoekiehttp://www.authenticparenting.info/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-57699474566334861732011-04-18T21:32:35.086-04:002011-04-18T21:32:35.086-04:00I love this carnival! I am nursing my almost 2 yea...I love this carnival! I am nursing my almost 2 year old son and want to wean on his terms. I am so hoping that our weaning experience will be just like this! My first 2 sons weaned in a week cold turkey because I felt pressure to do so. Now I'm a WIC breastfeeding peer counselor and I've learned so much! This time I'm doing it my way.Heather Beckleyhttp://twitter.com/10minMomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-12773966442582184172011-04-18T17:35:17.433-04:002011-04-18T17:35:17.433-04:00I too am somewhat disappointed I don't remembe...I too am somewhat disappointed I don't remember my last time with my first son. I found out I was pregnant when he was 9 months old, at which time we were nursing only twice a day (in the morning and before bed.) I never tried to wean him, he simply stopped being interested and asking for it. I counted myself lucky in some respect that I didn't have to "fight" to wean, but I was saddened it happened so soon. Of course, I have a second son, now 7 weeks old that I am able to enjoy nursing again with, and I cherish every time even now, just in case!Jessicanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-41007902078951879242011-04-18T13:38:30.933-04:002011-04-18T13:38:30.933-04:00What a great post! Isn't it funny how our exp...What a great post! Isn't it funny how our expectations of what we want or need change without us realizing it? I'm so happy that you both ended that aspect of your relationship on his and your terms naturally!Suzileighnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-41353779497221859592011-04-18T13:12:09.748-04:002011-04-18T13:12:09.748-04:00"Fat, hot tears" rolled down MY cheeks a..."Fat, hot tears" rolled down MY cheeks as I read this.Betsy Yateshttp://ExcruciatinglyNormal.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-35483762750424396712011-04-18T12:05:11.229-04:002011-04-18T12:05:11.229-04:00Yes, I never ever thought I would go three years. ...Yes, I never ever thought I would go three years. I'm still curious what will happen when the new baby comes. Will he want to nurse again? Stay tuned!Elita @ Blacktatinghttp://www.blacktating.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-60409448354674706202011-04-18T12:04:20.716-04:002011-04-18T12:04:20.716-04:00My son is such a lover I can't even imagine th...My son is such a lover I can't even imagine the day he says yuck to kissing and snuggling with mommy!!Elita @ Blacktatinghttp://www.blacktating.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-74190812788300683732011-04-18T11:31:29.962-04:002011-04-18T11:31:29.962-04:00I love this. To this day I still mourn not treasu...I love this. To this day I still mourn not treasuring those last few nursing sessions a little more closely ... snuggling a little longer, stroking a brow a little more gently, tenderly holding my last nursling! My youngest nursed for over 3 years and I too don't remember that last time. Like you I just remember saying, "hmmm ... he hasn't nursed in a few days ...." and then a few weeks later realizing it was over. Thanks for this, Elita! Beautifully written.Deirdre Mclarynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-15221543965041811632011-04-18T11:17:44.531-04:002011-04-18T11:17:44.531-04:00Elita, this post brought tears to my eyes. Grante...Elita, this post brought tears to my eyes. Granted, there was probably a lot of prolactin in my system at the time, but still very sweet... :-)Elissanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-56437751465644046552011-04-18T10:51:35.602-04:002011-04-18T10:51:35.602-04:00Awwww. It was that way with my daughter, too. Sh...Awwww. It was that way with my daughter, too. She stopped when she was four when I was pregnant because she hated the taste of colostrum. She wasn't getting much at all, anyway, and was going as long as two or three weeks between breastfeeding. I thought that she might try again a few weeks later, but she didn't. It is a beautiful thing, though, when they are fully ready and choose to stop. :)Dulcehttp://www.dulcefamily.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-40426881302173954412011-04-18T07:47:42.237-04:002011-04-18T07:47:42.237-04:00I'm hoping to wean like that, too! Avery keeps...I'm hoping to wean like that, too! Avery keeps nursing away though with no apparent end in sight. =)amy bohlerhttp://profiles.google.com/amlizabethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-49336231504795544682011-04-17T23:33:05.442-04:002011-04-17T23:33:05.442-04:00Exactly how I want to wean my 4- and 3-year-olds!Exactly how I want to wean my 4- and 3-year-olds!Elisa | blissfulEhttp://blissfule.menoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-13608298520384006062011-04-17T23:30:19.516-04:002011-04-17T23:30:19.516-04:00Love this... exactly how I want to wean my childre...Love this... exactly how I want to wean my children as well.Elisa Petersonhttp://profiles.google.com/elisa.petersonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-91127725910525285162011-04-17T23:24:28.481-04:002011-04-17T23:24:28.481-04:00Oh my goodness I almost started crying at the thou...Oh my goodness I almost started crying at the thought of nursing for the last time. I think I'd rather not know it's the last time because if I know then I'll probably be crying the whole time. <br /><br />Beautiful post. It's also amazing how our views on nursing longer than we planned can change over time and with more experience.Lactating Girlhttp://theadventuresoflactatinggirl.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-65666379596671033462011-04-17T22:43:52.234-04:002011-04-17T22:43:52.234-04:00Isn't it amazing how much value we place on th...Isn't it amazing how much value we place on that "last time?" I do remember my eldest's last time, she was (as with everything) very dramatic about the whole event at a few months shy of her 4th birthday. My middle child's "last time" sort of wasn't, as he nursed again after a few months of not, then did that again ... but I consider his weaning day as when we stopped breastfeeding as part of our routine. I'm sort of in denial that there will ever be a "last time" with my baby. After 100 months of continuous breastfeeding these three babies, I'm not sure what not lactating is going to be like for me. Just like with weaning and relating to my children, I'm sure I'll redefine my role and my mothering. Thanks for sponsoring this, Elita -- I'm enjoying all of the posts very much!Dianahttp://DianaIBCLC.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-70175716605401887092011-04-17T21:59:53.395-04:002011-04-17T21:59:53.395-04:00that's the most natural way of all, not to eve...that's the most natural way of all, not to even remember that last time. so happy for you and your son!Christinanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-28123242137302658302011-04-17T21:40:01.903-04:002011-04-17T21:40:01.903-04:00Weaning that never last time is bittersweet. On t...Weaning that never last time is bittersweet. On the one hand you are wanting to wean to get your body back but at the same time miss those moments when they still depend wholeheartedly on you to comfort, nourish & protect them. One day they love snuggling the next day they are so independent the look at a kiss like "yucky mommy". The great part is that there is now a bond that can't be broken.Alvina Edwardshttp://twitter.com/MamaAlvinanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-41235923949037272612011-04-17T21:02:04.553-04:002011-04-17T21:02:04.553-04:00This is exactly how weaning both my girls went-- i...This is exactly how weaning both my girls went-- it was sometime in those few months after their 2nd birthdays, and I have no memory of exactly when the last time was. I think I'm glad that it went that way.dorothea78noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-66177475267768692072011-04-17T20:36:59.499-04:002011-04-17T20:36:59.499-04:00A very good example of baby-led weaning. Don't...A very good example of baby-led weaning. Don't focus too much on the last time, but remember all the good times when you were nursing (and look forward to nursing again with number two!)Callistahttp://callistasramblings.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3536683374417960813.post-66050994429344420442011-04-17T20:30:17.734-04:002011-04-17T20:30:17.734-04:00Sounds wonderfully gentle.Sounds wonderfully gentle.Machahttp://www.lifeasareader.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com